First off, got both notes, thank you for each of them.
I’m literally having to run out of the house in about a minute, and can’t give this the time it deserves, I’m afraid, but I appreciated you writing, and I appreciate your point. Absolutely there is nuance in many realms, and even in some aspects of the discussion of society’s treatment of men and women. That granted, with regard to my specific points, I don’t really see it. The comics industry, and the supporting fandom around much of that community and expanding into others, is sexist, and in many cases outright misogynist. It treats women shabbily, and to me there’s no nuance to be found in threatening a woman with rape for criticizing a comic. There is no nuance to be found in threatening a woman with rape for anything.
The idea that comics or fandom could be, in anyway, under threat by the presence of women who love these stories, these characters, for whatever reason, however they’ve come to it, is to me absurd.
Also, you are in no danger of ending up in the Asshole Bag™. The Asshole Bag has very specific requirements for entry, and you, simply by being articulate, honest, and willing to own your words, are disqualified from placement in the Asshole Bag™.